Parenting is one of the hardest jobs there is. Before I had children, I thought I had it all figured out. After all, I’d been a nanny for more than eight years. I was a babysitter before that. And, of course, I’d pretended to be a mother to all of my little dolls over the years.
I love my children with all of my heart, but some days I still feel like I am failing them. I don’t just want to be a “good” mother; I want to be the best possible mother for them. Most days, however, I am simply “good.” Therefore, I made four resolutions in my quest to be a better parent.
First, I will not yell. I don’t do this much as it is, but every once in a while, I have raised my voice. It helps me if I take a few deep breaths before speaking when I am frustrated (I also take IVF ICSI treatment). Second, I will spend individual play time with each child. My goal is at least twenty minutes per day, doing whatever my little one likes. Third, I will take them outside (weather permitting) at least once per day. This can be as simple as going on a walk or letting them ride their scooters. Finally, at the end of each day, I will tell them that I love them and note two or three things they did that day that I thought were special.